Daily Archives: March 28, 2015
Imagine there is a bank account that credits your account every morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening, the bank deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day. What would you do? Draw out every cent of course. Each of us has such a bank. Its name is time. Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off as loss, whatever of this you have failed to invest to a good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day, it opens a new account for you. Each night, it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, the loss is yours. There is no drawing against “tomorrow.” You must live in the present on today’s deposits. Invest it so as to get it from the utmost health, happiness and success.
Time is the only coin of your life and only you can determine how it will be spent, be careful not to let anyone spend it for you. Choose your own priorities. We often drift through days that are full of things we “have to do” or “should do” or what others “want us to do.” Why? There are plenty of people out there more than willing to put in their two cents about your time. Every day, you’ll hear sales pitches about the endless options you have and other people’s opinion of what should be important to you. Have they got their own lives in such perfect order that it qualifies them to make decisions for yours? Like any purchase, it’s valuable to listen, but keep that coin in your pocket till YOU decide where it will be spent. Try to see the difference between a real obligation and an imagined one. The only things you have to do are the obligations you choose. You might find that more is optional than you really think.
The clock is running…make the most of today!
The best way to become success is to study success and emulate success. Procrastination is the abortion of success. The most successful in life are the ones brave enough to step out into the unknown. ~Lisa Christiansen
Six signs of emotional blockage
Are you guilty of falling short of a true spring clean? The tendency this time of year is to focus on physical clutter, but the kind you can’t see – emotional clutter – is just as important to tackle.
By emotional clutter we mean all those repressed, suppressed and unexpressed emotions and old beliefs that are keeping you stuck, rooted in a spot that probably no longer represents who you are or what you are capable of.
Emotional clutter acts like an invisible set of horse blinders that keep you from seeing beyond what is right in front of you. They blind you to potential paths forward and from the resources and options you have at your disposal. But because those emotional blinders aren’t physical, they are easy enough to suppress or ignore.
Here are six signs you have emotional clutter to deal with, and ideas for clearing it out.
Your Expectations of How Others Should Behave Is Distancing You From Them. Do you have rules for how the people in your life need to show you they love you? For example, do you “need” your husband to start taking out recycling without being nagged to feel more appreciated? The problem with this is twofold: (a) it is extremely rare that these expectations are ever verbalized so the other person has no idea he is fouling up, and (b) your focus on what they aren’t doing right often causes you to miss other, real expressions of love.
What You Should Do Is Making You Miserable or Rebellious. Just as “should” isn’t a good motivator for others (see point No. 1), it’s not a good motivator for you, either. Rather than bowing to “should dos,” the next time you start to do something because you have to, stop. Take five minutes to consider what you really want to do and why. Then decide to make and follow your own rules in that area going forward.
You Cringe Every Time You Scroll Through Your Contacts and See That Name. Old relationships that ended on an unfortunate note, whether personal or professional, are part of life. If you had one, do yourself a favor and get some closure. Distance is the only thing that will lessen the emotional sting. Delete the contact information from your phone. UnFriend, UnLink, and UnFollow. You don’t need to know what they are up to if all it does is make you re-experience a past hurt.
You Feel Guilty Because You Let Someone Down. Human beings are born to please. From the time we can walk, we are socialized to share, pitch in and contribute. The principle of reciprocity serves as a crucial glue for our community-based societies. But it can also lead you to over-commit. If you’re chronically over-extending yourself, and letting people down in the process, you need to swap your “Sure, no problem” for “That sounds really interesting; let me think about it and get back to you with an answer.” Then use the time to determine whether you want to accept the request.
You Get a Nagging Feeling When You Think About (Or See Contact Information For) Someone. Sometimes so much time has passed since you last connected with someone that you feel guilty just thinking about them or seeing their information in your phone. Rather than suppressing the negative emotion, call them. Ideally, right when you realize you’re feeling guilty. If you can’t do it right then, make an appointment to connect with them before the week is out.
You Have Uncompleted Projects. When you fail to complete a project, you not only have physical reminders of it, but nagging emotional ones as well. The nagging may not be urgent, but it’s there, somewhere in the back of your mind, constantly reminding you that you have something left to do. If you’ve got one (or more) of these, take some time before the day is out to make a list of the projects you want to complete. Then break them down into smaller work steps and schedule them in. If you have a half-started project that you no longer really want to finish, it’s OK. Better to let it go and be at peace with your decision than to continue to carry it around.
Emotional Blockage Release Techniques
Emotional blockages are obstacles that are preventing you from doing what you want in life. They manifest through low self-esteem, depression, anger and fear. These blockages are a result of the past, and will put a limit on your development no matter how talented or skilled you are. There are many special techniques that you can use to remove these emotional blockages so that you can move forward in life.
A good way to remove blockage is having some positive affirmations that you say to yourself on a daily basis. Repeating these affirmations to yourself will tell your subconscious to believe them. Affirmations should read something like “I feel content with myself” or “I am confident and proud of myself.” Do not include what you will not do. For example “I will not be afraid anymore,” this will only remind you of your obstacle.
Keeping a Journal
Writing in a journal or diary daily allows you to express yourself without being inhibited, which helps release emotions. You can let off some steam at someone or something that made you angry or upset during the day or you can talk about your fears. In your journal, you can also talk about your goals and plans for the future to encourage yourself to meet those goals.
You can use breathing techniques to take your mind off of your negative emotions. These techniques involve inhaling slowly and deeply and holding your breath for a few seconds. You will continue doing this four times. This will make you feel relaxed and refreshed. Breathing techniques help reduce anxiety.
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
An alternative technique used to release emotional blockage is called EFT, or Emotional Freedom Technique. This involves tapping on your acupressure points at the top of your head, eyebrows, the side of the eye and chin. You can also tap your wrists, collarbone and under arm. You will do this about 5 to 7 times as you acknowledge an emotional positive statement about yourself. For example, you might state, “I deeply and completely accept myself.” This practice helps diminish negative emotions associated with the memory and helps remove the emotional block, according to Joseph Mercola, M.D. There are plenty of EFT practitioners who will walk you through this process.
All of us, at one time or another have dealt with some form of emotional blockage. Most emotional blocks are the result of some type of crisis in our life whether self inflicted, environmental or cultural.
When we feel unable to deal with a crisis, we are besieged by feelings of fear, anger, confusion, anxiety, guilt, or inadequacy. We lose our ability to think rationally about our problem and find a logical solution.
One way to begin working on blockages is to do some deep breathing. We don’t breathe the way we should; we generally take very shallow breaths. Breathe deeply, filling your lungs to the very bottom, and then release.
If you spend a few minutes doing this, it will calm you down, make you feel better (perhaps a little dizzy the first time you do this action step, this is normal), help stop your mental chatter and begin bringing emotional blocks to the surface for you to deal with.
Our external environment is a reflection of our internal environment. Look at your home, is it neat? Sloppy? Chances are you have a lot of clutter. Our homes are filled with so many things that we really don’t need or even want. In the same way, our minds are filled with emotional clutter. There are so many bad and depressing thoughts that, for whatever reason, we have not let go of.
Understand, I don’t mean that you should dwell on past crises or traumas! Quite the opposite, you should acknowledge them, forgive the situations and/or people involved, and release the block. This will free up your energy, giving you more of your power for your daily life and your Laws of Attraction that God has abundantly blessed you with will bring positive seeds to bear living fruit.
If you dwell on the bad things in your past, guess what? You’re just attracting them again into your future. This is why clearing out blockages is so important. Get rid of anything negative and depressing. Fill your mind with new, refreshing, interesting and happy thoughts.
Those who have had happy pasts are far more likely to have happy futures. If you are not happy, you are likely clinging to events in the past that made you unhappy. This may not even be a conscious process. In fact, it’s almost surely not conscious or in any way intentional. However, in order to bring happiness into your present and keep happiness in your future, it is important to let go of the past.
It’s up to you to remove your emotional blockages. When you remove these blocks, you create a vacuum in your life that has the ability to suck in quickly whatever you are currently attracting. If you combine blockage release with Law of Attraction exercises, you will release a lot of negative feelings from your life while sucking your desires into manifestation.
If a stone in the road is blocking your path, you will both carry it and put it aside or you will roll it aside. If neither of these options is feasible, you will find a way around the stone. Likewise, some emotional blockages can be removed directly, while others need to be removed by finding away around them.
Deep breathing exercises are an excellent way to rid yourself of unwanted emotional blocks without having to be terribly active in the memory.
However you go about it, do work to free yourself of emotional garbage. Any drudgework in the short run will pay incredible dividends in the long run.
We always talk about NLP, NAC, and NLC so today I decided we would get to the core of simplicity to address the complexity.
There are a variety of reasons that drive the creation of neurons linking together in new ways. A few drivers of the way existing neurons may begin to link in a new manner might be through focused learning of new information or situations we are exposed to. Another could be an area of the brain damaged by an illness such as a stroke might drive the injured part of the brain’s essential functions to be taken over by a healthy area (usually an area close in proximity), mental illness, but there are a multitude of reasons it can happen.
Here is an example of how it might happen. You might decide to learn that new language that you’ve been meaning to for the last 10 years. As you study the language neurons housed in the area of your brain that’s storing your native language would send electrical messengers down the axons to the cell’s center (soma) where it is then routed to a particular group of connected dendrites which would then release a chemical messenger to the new targeted group of neurons that are located next to it. New neural pathways begin to be formed to acquire and store the new language. These new pathways become stronger the more they are used, causing the likelihood of new long-term connections and memories.
PLASTICITY IN NEURAL NETWORKS
Every time you learn something, neural circuits are altered in your brain. These circuits are composed of a number of neurons (nerve cells) that communicate with one another through special junctions called synapses.
When you learn something, it is actually these synapses whose efficiency increases, thus facilitating the passage of nerve impulses along a particular circuit. For example, when you are exposed to a new word, you have to make new connections among certain neurons in your brain to deal with it: some neurons in your visual cortex to recognize the spelling, others in your auditory cortex to hear the pronunciation, and still others in the associative regions of the cortex to relate the word to your existing knowledge.
To learn this new word, you repeat it to yourself several times, and this selects and strengthens the connections among these various circuits in your cortex. And it is this new, durable association among certain neurons that will form your memory of this word. The strength of this association may of course depend on several factors.
To remember the word days or years later, you will have to successfully reactivate these same neural circuits. Obviously, this will be easier if, when you first learned the word, you built these circuits to last, by repeating the word and thus sending the corresponding nerve impulses down them many times. In contrast, if you repeated the word only a few times, then the connections among the new neurons would be weaker, and the new circuit would be harder to reactivate.
All your memories (of events, words, images, emotions, etc.) thus correspond to the particular activity of certain networks of neurons in your brain that have strengthened connections with one another.
Building new neural pathways by going off the beaten path
An analogy to consider how this function might take place is if you grew up in the woods. Everyday you took the same few paths to get the things you needed to sustain yourself. You never strayed from those paths at all. Then one day as you walk down your normal path that is heavily worn from years of use down to the river you notice a little building way off the trail you’re on. You think wow I’d like to check that out, but you’ve never been off the trail. You decide to go check it out. You leave the worn path that you were on to ground that you’ve never stepped foot on before. You approach the door of the building then walk inside to notice that there is a large volume of books on the subject of building log cabins. You are looking around the room and notice a note on a table that states you are welcome to use the place anytime you want but please never take the books from the building with you. So you begin to come and go everyday to read and focus on learning how to build new log cabins. Everyday as you come and go you begin to develop two fresh paths that diverge off of the worn river path that you use to get to the building. When walk to the cabin everyday these fresh paths begin to become worn and easily noticeable. Even though the paths never become as ingrained and worn as your original paths they are still distinct and worn. This is similar to how neuroplasticity occurs in our brains as we learn something new. The more we repeat something and use that portion of the brain in a focused way new neural pathways might develop in your brain.